Hugging my one and only mama after coming out to her in 2015.

Mother // Perspectives //

Happy Mother’s Day ya’ll! Now I was feeling particularly festive this year and decided to start (another) series. This one is called, Perspectives and I am hoping to interview a variety of people with varied outlooks to have an open conversation to understand their point of view.

In this first episode of Perspectives, I talk to my good old mom to try to understand what it felt like after I came out to her, what she fears, and she even gives some advice to kids and parents on how to approach your gay child.


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Steven Universe // TV That’s Snatching My Weave //

Before you go in on me about the “cartoons are for kids” notion, please pay attention. I first learned about Steven Universe about a year ago now. I heard about it through Tumblr (okay I know I’m not helping my case) and the post that was attached to it was truly heartwarming so I started to watch it. Now, on any given evening, you’ll find me curled in bed watching a re-run.

It’s a show that’s on the Cartoon Network about a young boy who is being raised by aliens with the mission to help protect the Earth. Besides the ease of watch (every episode is a bearable 10 minutes) and its humor, it is a story with heart.

Now you may be wondering, “why are you posting this show on the Sassy Gay?” It is because the main characters of this show go through the struggles of being the underdog and find ways to still love, learn, grow and accept. Sound familiar? This most recent episode touched me very much – teaching someone to see the other side. It also spoke to a situation that a lot of people seem to need to see I wish Trump would see this scene.You should check it out (@7:38-):

Please watch this show. For inspiration. For happiness.


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Chick Magnet: Why Straight Women Love Gay Men // Sassy Conversations //

From gay best friends to crushes on the gay bartender , straight women gravitating toward gay men has been a tale as old as time. Recently I’ve even discovered my romantic luck with the opposite sex despite my sexual preference (note: I am gay). Unbeknownst to this, I’ve found myself happily chatting (in their eyes, flirting) or dancing (grinding) with straight women. I wanted to dig a little deeper and figured the best way to do this was to ask my very own best friend who happens to be straight and female. Check it out:

For the most part I think gays just have a level to us that lacks intimidation toward our straight female counterparts. People are generally attracted to confidence when sexuality is not a factor and naturally if I see a girl work it and they see me work it, Imma be all over that shit. Gay men exude confidence and nonthreatening behavior toward a woman we have absolutely no interest in fucking. In that regard that tells me two things: Gays can be awesome and approachable (for the most part). And the second is that straight guys can be the complete opposite – creepy horny weirdos that are largely intimidating to the female gender.

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What do you guys think? Comment below and let me know.


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Thanks for Being Gay

It’s that time of the year in Canada – Thanksgiving long weekend. I wanted to take a moment to really reflect on the current state of the LGBT community and also to look at my own life and just note down some of the many things I am grateful for.

Guy eating a pumpkin in a pumpkin patch

Living in the city of Toronto is something I take for granted on the daily. I am thankful that as a gay man, (a gay man of colour for that matter) I have been able to live my life and be who I want to be and express myself however I want without fear of discrimination or violence. I am privileged to have the support of family and friends for all aspects of my life and am thankful that I do not live in fear of rejection from those I love. I am a citizen of a country that recognises gay marriage. I can marry a man I love and I can even have children if that is in my cards. I am thankful for how lucky I am to live like I can as a gay man.

I often think about my other brothers and sisters who are not as fortunate as me. I think about those who live in the shadows. I think about those who cannot express who they are in fear of being discriminated against. I think about those who are brave and try to bring forth love and are only welcomed with hate. I think about those who have lost their lives to acts of homophobia, trans-phobia, hate and ignorance. I think about those who live in countries that damn their existence. I think about those who just want to love someone of their same sex and are not allowed to. I think about those who want the things that I can have.

I am lucky and I am thankful.

What are you thankful for?


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The Heartbreaker’s Playlists // Fab Music //

What is better than music to help you get through shitty relationship woes? And there are SOOO many reasons to be upset. Thankfully, there are my amazing singers to rely on for EVERY type of heartbreak. Today Imma focus on a few with top 3 tracks in the below categories:

Conflicted Goodbyes (I couldn’t choose just three): 

Liar Haterz:

Goodbye Forever:

Independent Women:

Revenge is a Dish:

Boys. Not Men. Boys:

It’s Karma Bitch:

Get Through It, Girl:

The Next Stage:

Here’s a full list of songs that couldn’t make the top 3’s:


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Hugging my one and only mama after coming out to her in 2015.

That Time I Came Out To My Mom

April 13, 2015 – I came out to my mom last night. Moments before my little brother snapped this picture, my mom said, “I’m not disappointed in you”, she began to cry. “I understand this is who you are. I’m just sad that it was difficult for you to be this way. And it’s still hard.” Her words were broken between tears; she was trying to explain the best she could considering the big news. After all the hiding and secrecy her only concern was how difficult life may have been and may be for me because of who I am. I never thought I needed to hear it from her. But I did.


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Be the Change // My Dear Gay Community //

Be the Change

It is a choice. We make a choice to live the way we live our lives. Love is harder than lust. Don’t be lazy. Trust in the fact that like with everything you work hard for (as we all know gays are known for ;P), you will get it one day. I just ask that you make that an option. Make love an option.

When you forget why you are, who you are, remember that moment, that emotion you felt when you first told someone you were gay. Hold on to that rush of acceptance, that endless sigh of relief. Remember the smiles and the tears. Remember that; those same people in our lives who have chosen to accept us with love deserve the same respect and understanding. There are other people in this world, and if we want to break this fishbowl around our community, all you have to do is learn to love.

Read Part. I Here

Read Part II. Here

Thoughts?


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