I wanted to open this blog up with a little preface before I get into a full conversation with my co-host Jo and its because we hit on a topic that is kinda big, kinda controversial. Infidelity. When it comes to the story of infidelity, there are usually two main characters. The cheater and the cheated. However, there is always another person in the story. In some cases other people.
In my own exploration of self, relationships and sex, I have once found myself on that end of it. Yes you guessed it – I’ve been what can only be described as the side piece.
From Nina Simone’s The Other Woman and most recently SZA’s The Weekend, there are tales of the lamenting side piece and how it feels to be the one that gives the man something he wants, but not the one who the man comes home to. I won’t say that it’s necessarily glorified, but it definitely doesn’t explore the reasons as to why side pieces willingly decide to get themselves into this position in the first place.
I’m opening up this dialogue with my story to bring awareness to a few things. Not excuses for any one, including myself but just laying down some knowledge. The first thing is the realization that men are pigs. The second is that strong relationships are built on trust. Without trust there is no relationship. Finally, there is no excuse to cheat. Period. And what I have learned from my experiences is there is no reason (even if it is exclusively selfish) to knowingly partake in a situation that perpetuates distrust between two people.
I hope this podcast allows you to understand all impacts of cheating – the cheater, the cheating with, and the cheated on. Get ready for a big one.
What are your thoughts on being the side person? Have you ever dealt with it? Sound off in a comment below!
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