First dates! Most of us experience them at some point. For the most, they have been in the “neutral” to “pleasant” ranges. However, the ones that seem to impact me the most are the worst ones. I sat down with Jo to discuss our first date experiences and created a 3 quick tips for a good first date.
Tip #1: Go to a place you can talk
On a first date, the general priority is to figure out who this perfect stranger is. Hopefully you’ve built up a rapport with the person but want to make sure he’s how he was in his profile, isn’t insane and if this will go much further. Pick a place with proper lighting so you don’t miss that snaggle tooth. And a place that is lively and exciting because there’s always a quiet awkward moment (bonus: if it gets too loud and it’s going well, it’s a great way to segue to a more intimate venue like a lounge or bar) and for God sake make sure the place is NOT a movie theater. No talking is ever done in a dark theater. Trust me.
Tip #2: Watch your vices
Most people enjoy a little drink from time to time (or a smoke 😏) Nerves can absolutely get the best of you. Take a little swig beforehand or a glass with dinner if they also oblige to take the edge off. Or a little toke of you can handle it. The key is: don’t get sloppy. Don’t do what Guy #32 did on our first date and order a full bottle of red, binge drink it before our entrees came, be way too drunk to remember where you parked your car, and try to make out with me. Was not a good look. Additionally, had I been a major skeezebag, someone can take advantage of your vulnerable state.
Tip #3: Have an out
Yes I’m 29 and I still play this silly game. But it’s because I find more benefits from it than not. I almost always have a reason to cut the night short by something that is either *cough* a lie *cough* or soft plans with someone or something else. Even if the date goes well, it’s a great way to reflect on the person sans intimate feelings. On that note, it ensures you don’t give into temptation and bone on the first date. And finally, IMO people do appreciate it when you have other things going on in your life, it adds a layer of complexity to your first impression. As a bonus note, have an emergency contact that you can text in the bathroom who will call you when you get back to the date to zip out if it’s the worst date of all time.
I’m single. I have experience. Listen to me.
What have been some of your best dates? Worst? Sound off in the comments below!