Mixed Feelings // Perspectives //

Being mixed is a part of my identity that I embrace. But it wasn’t always this way. As much as I believed to be unaffected by my skin color and where my parents were from, it did shape the way I looked out at the world and also how the world looked at me.

I soon realized that growing up as a person of color sheds a different lens on your life. Whether or not it is obvious, judgment is placed on all people. It is human nature to find a way to identify with one another – to connect with one another.

For mixed people, this can be a unique experience. Because you do not fit within one culture or the other specifically, you somehow remain on the outside of those cultures. Furthermore, while being a Canadian is what my nationality is, Canada is a country that encourages its citizens to embrace its multiculturalism as its identity. So it gets confusing.

Now that I’m older, I’ve learned how important it is to understand your roots and your heritage. It is only with understanding our history can we move into the future.

In my latest podcast, I speak with Jo who is also of mixed race. We bond and discuss our experiences growing up mixed and oddly enough have had very different perspectives on being mixed:

Are you mixed? Have you had similar experiences?  Sound off in the comments below! 

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Coming Out with My Brother // Perspectives // National Coming Out Day

I was 18 years old when I came out to my little brother. Hmmm…actually I don’t know if I could call it coming out when I was accidentally outed by one of my best friends (at the time). At that time, I had built up a small tight circle of people who I had already come out to but my little brother was not one of them. I’m not sure why since we had a very close relationship. Maybe it had to do with the shame that came along with being gay and the fear of potential influence (not realizing at that time that sexuality is not as connected to nurture as we had once believed). But it happened and his response was nothing but positive. I look back at how young he was at the time and understanding what it could have meant to him (especially him being a young male teenager) and am even more impressed with his reaction.

As years went on, my little brother became my one of my biggest champions. Even though he was 5 years my junior he never laid ignorance as an excuse to blurt out homophobic things or allow for that behavior like many “allies” sometimes do.

If ever there was an opportunity for education, he took it upon himself to inquire respectfully. He still does it to this day. And even though there are some things he never cared to understand (my overly sexualized personal experiences for example lol) he still found a way to respect who I am and saw well beyond my sexuality.

My brother was by my side when I came out to both my parents (at two separate instances). I didn’t realize until later how much it helped to calm me knowing he was there in those anxiety ridden moments.

These are traits of a true ally. It does not necessarily mean someone who will hold a flag with you at a pride parade or come to drag queen night at a gay bar. Well, maybe those things can be included, but they are never necessary. To me an ally is a person who cares about you, beyond your sexuality. Someone who if they have questions they will ask to better understand. Someone who will stand up for you if you ever feel threatened, period. Someone who allows you to feel supported at whatever capacity they can give.

I am truly lucky to have my brother in my life because I know that mine isn’t the most common experience on a global scale. Here is a candid podcast I did for the Perspectives series where he joins me to tell his side of the story. Enjoy:

What have your coming out experiences been like? Sound off in a comment below!

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The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness // Article Repost

I came across this article from a Tumblr vlogger  and was blown away at how many truths it exposed. The writer, Michael Hobbes hits almost every nail on the head when talking about growing up gay and how it effects you. I was moved at how much it spoke to me as a gay man who is also a person of color. This article is for everyone to read. It helps to uncover our need to grow and change as a gay community and also helps those who are Allies to understand how many gay men see the world. Please check it out:


Awesome links that are referenced in the article:

Hugging my one and only mama after coming out to her in 2015.

Mother // Perspectives //

Happy Mother’s Day ya’ll! Now I was feeling particularly festive this year and decided to start (another) series. This one is called, Perspectives and I am hoping to interview a variety of people with varied outlooks to have an open conversation to understand their point of view.

In this first episode of Perspectives, I talk to my good old mom to try to understand what it felt like after I came out to her, what she fears, and she even gives some advice to kids and parents on how to approach your gay child.

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