The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness // Article Repost

I came across this article from a Tumblr vlogger  and was blown away at how many truths it exposed. The writer, Michael Hobbes hits almost every nail on the head when talking about growing up gay and how it effects you. I was moved at how much it spoke to me as a gay man who is also a person of color. This article is for everyone to read. It helps to uncover our need to grow and change as a gay community and also helps those who are Allies to understand how many gay men see the world. Please check it out:

http://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/gay-loneliness/

Awesome links that are referenced in the article:

Dear White People // TV That’s Snatching My Weave

I’m going to keep this short, but please watch this show. This show is so important, especially now. It centers around an Ivy League university in the States and focuses on the racial issues young black people face and what they want to do about it. It is funny, entertaining and too real. I just got to the halfway mark of the first season and it has some extremely powerful moments in it. The way the story is told is showing each character in their small community on campus and how they are interwoven and what their individual perspectives are. The way they tell the story helps to be inclusive and show that there is diversity even within communities.

You may have clicked on or followed this blog for one reason. But remember all people who are marginalized and have had histories of oppression feel a similar pain. Not the same, but similar. This common thread should allow us to not only empathize but be willing to stand up for all injustices. Watch. Stay woke.

 


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Hugging my one and only mama after coming out to her in 2015.

Mother // Perspectives //

Happy Mother’s Day ya’ll! Now I was feeling particularly festive this year and decided to start (another) series. This one is called, Perspectives and I am hoping to interview a variety of people with varied outlooks to have an open conversation to understand their point of view.

In this first episode of Perspectives, I talk to my good old mom to try to understand what it felt like after I came out to her, what she fears, and she even gives some advice to kids and parents on how to approach your gay child.


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REVIEW: Moonlight – Outside the Shadows // Film That’s Snatching My Weave

Moonlight tells the story of a young boy named Chiron who is living in a ghetto with his mom. The film is split into three sections, each capturing a moment in time of Chiron’s growth as an individual. More than anything, the story is about identity (my favorite thing to talk about!) and finding a way to be at peace with who you are despite the way life has unfolded.

I enjoyed the layering in the film Moonlight. It covers being a person of color and poverty – Chiron being born into a not so ideal situation with his single mother addicted to drugs. The fact that these two concepts of being black and poor are a true reality for many,  I was glad to see this film tackle both in such an honest way. The struggles Chiron faces as a young boy in the ghetto are beautifully drawn with his desire for love from any one who has the patience to listen. It teaches of compassion and understanding – the foundation of who he becomes is set in the first act.

Moonlight covers off the forever unmoving ideology of masculinity. It challenges what it means to be a man in the world and what it takes to survive. The concept of sacrificing your own identity and putting your own life aside just to get by is something that struck a chord in me. Chiron is unable to understand who he can be and instead falls victim to his environment.

This film is a must watch. The display of these concepts- poverty, masculinity, and personal identity; they are all relatable to any person willing to look into themselves and then look out to the world. 


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Steven Universe // TV That’s Snatching My Weave //

Before you go in on me about the “cartoons are for kids” notion, please pay attention. I first learned about Steven Universe about a year ago now. I heard about it through Tumblr (okay I know I’m not helping my case) and the post that was attached to it was truly heartwarming so I started to watch it. Now, on any given evening, you’ll find me curled in bed watching a re-run.

It’s a show that’s on the Cartoon Network about a young boy who is being raised by aliens with the mission to help protect the Earth. Besides the ease of watch (every episode is a bearable 10 minutes) and its humor, it is a story with heart.

Now you may be wondering, “why are you posting this show on the Sassy Gay?” It is because the main characters of this show go through the struggles of being the underdog and find ways to still love, learn, grow and accept. Sound familiar? This most recent episode touched me very much – teaching someone to see the other side. It also spoke to a situation that a lot of people seem to need to see I wish Trump would see this scene.You should check it out (@7:38-):

Please watch this show. For inspiration. For happiness.


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Reasons Why Beyonce Losing Best Album of the Year is the Actual WORST

Grief. Doubt. Frustration. Heartbreak.

These are all emotions that were pulled out of my heart when I first watched/listened to Lemonade – Beyonce’s 2016 audiovisual masterpiece which chronicles a black woman’s struggles through love and life. What Beyonce shared with the world was not only the raw emotion captured in song and creative art. Lemonade was a statement to the music industry of it’s ever changing landscape on how the world wants and sees music. Lemonade was set to win the Best Album of the Year. Yet the GRAMMYs decided on another winner. Here are 3 reasons why that is total bullshit.

1. Beyonce wins Urban Contemporary Album of the Year

WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT? The GRAMMYs literally have an urban contemporary category. Sure, let’s throw all the amazing colored artists into one category so they have a chance at a Grammy. Do you understand how patronizing that feels? And yes as an aside, Beyonce being recognized by the colored community via BET awards is great and well deserved. But people of color recognizing people of color for excellence will never match the validation of an internationally known industry standard like what the GRAMMYs have become. People of color are held down by their own oppression – stuck in a circle of handshakes and back pats from the wrong people.

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“It’s important to me to show images to my children that reflect their beauty so they can grow up in a world where they look in the mirror — first through their own families, as well as the news, the Super Bowl, the Olympics, the White House and the Grammys — and see themselves.” – Beyonce Knowles

This woman speaks to her children for this win. She looks to the generations of people of color that would look up and see a person of color win an award for a album. We aren’t talking about equality anymore. This is about EQUITY.

2. “What the Fuck Does She Have to do to Win Album of the Year?”

Words spoken by Album of the Year winner Adele during the Q&A session post-win. Imagine, even the WINNER OF THE BEST ALBUM OF THE AWARD KNOWS THAT IT SHOULDN’T HAVE GONE TO HER! You know what the Grammys taught us on Sunday? It’s no longer about the best music. It’s no longer about art. You can completely change the music game – push boundaries, create a media frenzy from your album drop, positively affect the outlook of millions, perform at the Grammys as a lit-er-al goddess (and kill it). And if you are a person of color, you will never be enough. What an awful, backward message to be sending the millions of supporters of this award show.

3. If We Are Going to Heal, Let it Be Glorious

Spoken by the queen herself at the end of her performance, Beyonce declares “1000 girls raise their arms.” This statement was meant to be a declaration to stand up and fight against the injustices of today’s world. Instead here we are again, on the public stage, using it to tell people of color that you have to fight twice as hard to get what you want. As Malcom X said, “The most disrespected person in America  is the black woman.” Whether you are a single mom working two jobs, an entrepreneur running a business, or Beyonce herself, your excellence will always be looked at with greater judgment. I truly applaud Beyonce’s patience for this bullshit – for her ability to rise above the blatant display of inequity. It is something all people of color must keep in their arsenal from now until things change. Rise above defeat and come back stronger. Clap and cheer in the face of discrimination. Pronounce your greatness even without recognition. This is the world we live in. This is what people of color all need to do to both survive but also thrive in this world.

To anyone who minimizes this issue, they aren’t seeing the whole picture. People always say being nominated is a win in itself. But when winning means changing the outlook of millions of people of color to feel that they are included in popular culture, seen and heard, and that they are recognized for their artistic excellence by a world renown industry institution, WINNING MEANS EVERYTHING.


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