What You Present to the World
Stop being so sexual. It’s a simple request.
I, as a gay man, understand the trials and tribulations of being gay but that does not mean we become animals in the process. Yes, we’ve told our stories to our friends and family. We had to sit them down, or write them a letter and pour our heart out to them. Essentially, we had to tell them the one thing that mattered: I like men.
When I go online, and want to chat with a guy, the first thing I don’t want to see before your face is a picture of your dick. Nor do I want to answer a question that has the words, “top”, “bottom”, or “into” in it. Tear yourself away from your mask of insecurities and do some good for your community.
You also may think, that this does not affect your interaction with the rest of the world – “It’s just online”. First of all: Why would you show pictures of your face and junk online and then assume that would never affect your real life? Are none of you aspiring to be successes? Secondly, acting a certain way online slowly but surely changes your attitude in the real world. Online, people tend to be more abrupt, crude, and perverted. If you don’t think that would change the way you act toward people in person, you’re sorely mistaken. Soon enough, you won’t know how to function around anyone.
Don’t think adding words like, “educated, professional, masc” enhance anything to a profile that showcases a picture of your bare headless torso. Be direct as to what you want and don’t be selfish, you can’t have it all. And what’s with the discrimination? “blacks only, whites only, masc only”. Why are you setting that level of separation within your own community? There is such a thing as preference, but why put that out there like that? It is so inclusive and judgmental. The worst thing of it all is for the most part people are picking at things that people can’t change, like race or personality. There is something else people can’t change about themselves – homosexuality. And for that reason, you should be more aware and understanding of blanketing a particular population. Keep it to yourselves boys; no one needs to hear who you exclusively like to get fucked by.
In North America, we are in the golden age of being gay. Do not undo the great work of Harvey Milk and all gay rights activists that came before us by flashing your junk online. You might think, “Hey, none of your business. I do what I want with my life, I’m not bothering anyone.”
You are entirely incorrect. Unfortunately, (or as you should see it, fortunately) you are in fact a reflection of the gay community in all that you do. Whether it be winning a Pulitzer prize, or sucking a guy’s dick in the middle of the street during Pride week people are always watching. Yes, we are sexual, yes, we are free. But we are also human beings who are a part of a large community – the human race. You cannot perpetuate the stereotype that all gay men are over sexualized perverts. “Well aren’t you doing so with this post?” you may ask. Yes I am, but it’s because as a gay man, this is what I’ve seen. Can you imagine what impressionable and unexposed youth, men and women conclude when they see or hear these things? When you say, “I want to fuck” long before you say, “I want love”, whether or not it is true, as long as you live in this modern world you are a role model for someone. Think about that.